Friends with Benefits - A mom's secret weapon

I have amazing friends. Truly incredible people that I am so lucky to have met through momstown and secretly feel that I don't deserve.  Mama's need each other, and to know that I have such a strong support network makes me a happier person all around. These mama's step up when I need them and most importantly, they follow through. These are my friends with benefits, the ones I know I can count on through thick and thin.


If I could measure how much these mama's help me and how valuable they are to me this would be my rating system:

• Hold my baby so I can go to the bathroom alone - 5 points

• Listen to me incessantly whine about my kids/hubby/work without judgment - 15 points

• Tell me that nobody saw my 2 year old's meltdown in Wal-Mart - 35 points

• Bring me a coffee when you know I've had a bad day - 25 points 

• Remember the exact, ridiculous modifications I make to said coffee -  15 bonus points

• Wipe my kids nose for me - 10 points

• Watch my child while I'm at a doctors appointment - 50 points

• Make me feel better by telling me that your kid bit another child at their dayhome too (whether they did or not) - 75 points

• Babysit at my house for date night so that my kids get to fall asleep in their own beds - 85 points

• Take my kids overnight - 200 points

• Change a diaper - 50 points (25 bonus points for poop)

• Tell me how much you love my kids - 150 points

• Quietly warn me that my shirt is on inside out - 50 points

• Send your hubby to help mine move furniture - 100 points

• Bring a dessert to moms night out - 50 points

• Bring dessert and a bottle of wine to moms night out - 150 points

My definition of what makes a good friend has changed since having children. Sometimes a good chat is worth more than all of these things combined. Truthfully, the value of these friendships is immeasurable and some days I'm not sure how I would get through my days without them!