Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Do's and Don'ts from the Big Cook Expert!

When you first think stay at home mom, its amazing how quickly images of perfectly cleaned homes with well behaved children, four course meals waiting on the table with you looking all done up will come to mind. Cause everyone knows that we moms have tons of time on our hands! Reality of it is, we fight for time to shower, and when witching hour hits, that hour before dinner, you are opening the fridge ten times hoping that something will finally appear that will solve the reoccurring question of “what are we going to have for dinner tonight?”

Before kids, I used to love to cook. Trying new recipes with hours in the kitchen was something I looked forward to. Somewhere in the last 3 years, that changed. My food ends up on floors and walls, and on a good day, I will have 20 minutes to get dinner made before I have to break up fights, or have a child hanging off one of my limbs. Needless to say, there had to be a better way to do this! As if on cue, I was introduced to Big Cooks, a simple concept where in a few hours, the horrible supper problem is solved.

A Big Cook is a pretty simple concept. Recipes are picked, food is bought and prepared, and then everyone gathers to assemble the meals in a few hours. These meals are then tossed in the freezer and the only thing left to do is relax! Come suppertime, grab a bag, defrost it, and go! Some are even easier and get thrown, completely frozen, in the slow cooker. Simple concept right? Well it is, if it’s done right.

When putting together a big cook, there are a few things to know to ensure that it’s a successful night:

When just starting with Big Cooks, plan ahead and pick recipes that don’t involve multistep cooking (browning meat, then vegetables, etc). Meals that have everything combined at once work best.

Try to pick recipes with the same key ingredients and cuts of meat. This will save you bundles in the long run.

Arrange to only do 1 shopping trip. Call ahead with the amount and cuts of meat you need and ask for a bulk discount and for it to be packaged in larger quantities. When you are talking 100 lbs of chicken, most stores are happy to help, especially if it means you not taking every pack of chicken out of their store. Don’t be afraid to ask if they can slice the meat into needed cuts as well, as this will save you TONS of time! With only one shopping trip, you’re also not ending up with 5 cans of ketchup, 4 bottle of soy sauce, and so on.

While each Big Cook can be done differently, there are some easy Do's and Don'ts that will help things go well. The big secret is to keep it organized!

Do try to pick recipes that can use the some of the same ingredients. Some great staples will be ketchup, soy sauce, brown sugar and tomato sauce. 
Don’t assume that a favorite recipe can’t be adapted to be frozen. Many meals can easily have a few ingredients left out as added during cooking so that it freezes better.

Do use a recipe multiplier to make sure you have your quantities right. Allrecipes.com has one built in that works great, but always round up with the measurements. Remember to double and triple check your quantities when buying things, its never fun to run out of a key ingredient.
Don't try to take on all the shopping by yourself, enlist a few friends, or go as a group. If you've called ahead for the meat, it makes for a quick shopping trip when you are just getting the remaining ingredients and the meat is already measured out and packaged.

Do print out your recipes based on the serving sizes you want. It’s much easier to double then it is to half, so when in doubt, go smaller and double it if you need to.
Don’t assume that everyone knows what they are doing. Ask people what they are comfortable doing and put them at tasks they know best.

Do keep it small to start. If you want more meals, have people do 2 or 3 recipes each, but the more people that come, the more hectic it gets.
Don’t worry too much about lots of space, you can always do one recipe at a time. If you do have lots of room, setting up stations for each recipe works great too!

Do let people assemble their own meals, some may want some things left out.
Don’t forget to always make a bit extra when prepping the ingredients, you never know when something is going to get knocked over or spilt.

Do keep it organized while cooked. Try to keep each ingredient with the recipe it belongs to and in one spot.
Don't forget to label your bags! You can write on them prior to putting ingredients in the bag, or can print out labels with the name and cooking instructions that you just stick on after.

Do remember basic cooking rules when assembling meals. Keep raw meat separate and make sure there is lots of soap and cloths for washing hands.
Don't just wing it with the measuring. Most ingredients are weighed or measured carefully, so use proper measuring cups and spoons and weigh your meats.

Do take a break in the middle and do a load of dishes, it helps tremendously at the end!
Don’t neglect the clean up. While it’s wonderful to have 30 meals in one day, most kitchens will look like a war zone at the end, so make sure it’s good to go before leaving!

Remember to enjoy yourself and your company while you’re at it, and then say good-bye to dinner-time stress! Happy Cooking!


Guest Blog by momstown's resident Big Cook Queen - Amanda Laramee

Saturday, October 22, 2011

momstown.ca Wins Savvy Mom Entrepreneur of the Year Award!!

Wow.

Mom Entrepreneur of the Year!!!

That's quite the title considering the absolutely incredible and innovative businesses that were nominated as well!

We are so unbelievably proud of Ann-Marie Burton for developing this amazing organization and inspiring us to think so big! momstown.ca has been going strong for 5 years now and this a fantastic way to celebrate!

momstown could not have done this without the support of our members, fans, and partners.  We are so grateful to everyone for supporting this community of mom entrepreneurs, this means the world to us!

Because this award is a joint effort and wouldn't not have been possible with our amazing members and partners we want to share this award with you!

  • Available to ALL Online Mom Entrepreneurs: FREE advertising package which includes a National Contest and a 3 month discount listing on all our national sites. Click here to sign up to claim your package and get set up to support your business over  the holiday season. Our celebration ends October 28, 2011, don’t miss out and enter your name.

  • Available to ALL Members: As a thank-you to all of our amazing momstown members for their continued support, we’d like to extend everyone’s membership! FREE one month membership – for all New, Existing or Lapsed members. Click here to sign up for your free month extension, reactivation or extra trial membership. momstown loves to connect neighbourhood moms and we hope you’ll join us.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Designing the Perfect Nursery...

Picture this: I was about 8 1/2 months pregnant and I spent my days wandering the aisles of all kinds retail establishments, list in hand. What list? The list I had ripped out of my New Mom Organizer, of course; the list outlining everything I would need to create the perfect nursery.

Baby wash: Check. Baby Lotion: Check. Baby Oil. Why? Who knows, but it's on the list. Check. Gorgeous matching crib sheet set: Check. Check. CHEQUE! Hundreds of checks and almost as many dollars later, I felt so ready for a baby. Boy, was I prepared!

I used to just sit in the rocking chair and gaze upon my perfect nursery full of matching bedding, wonderful artwork (what a find – a framed alphabet picture in my nursery's colours!), the wonderfully stocked cabinet of diaper creams, lotions, potions, elixirs, oils, powders and pastes (no seriously, I had something called Butt Paste). All arranged according to size, all easily accessible. I would sit there and dream about my perfect baby in my perfect nursery.

A few weeks later, Harrison barged right into my life in what can only be described as an infant hurricane. In only a few short days, the nursery I'd worked on all summer became a mess of creams, diapers, clothes, maybe some sweat, surely some tears, and a possible puddle of pee.

You can't put a lotion bottle back in the ‘right’ place when you're keeping one hand on your squirmy infant. You can't remember to empty the diaper genie when you just wrestled a 6-week old into a onesie that Nana Sally bought and you have to go get a picture of him in it before he outgrows it - which may be in 7 more minutes. You can't put laundry away when you've got a newborn!!!!

Soon I learned that baby powder isn’t really used by anyone with lungs (why was it on my checklist?), and that Butt Paste wasn't as good as Penaten, that baby wash smelled like chemicals, and what to do with baby oil is still a mystery.... eventually it all got given away and I was left with my trusty favourites that got the job done a little quicker each time.

What about the matching crib set? My son started to shimmy around in his sleep and one morning I found him snoozing happily with his face in those beautiful bumper pads. Out they went. That comforter that matched the set? My baby has never seen it – you don’t put a heavy comforter on an infant!??. So basically we had a beautiful fitted sheet and a bedskirt left. But that sheet is now a multitude of colours, telling the story of when we started solids... carrots, berries, beef. Yuck, beef. It's been replaced. That wonderful bedskirt? Now that the crib is lowered, it was all bunchy on the ground and nothing we had left matched it. It's gone too.

Remember that alphabet picture I mentioned? Well, my checklist didn't mention not to hang it over the baby's crib (duh!), so now that he can stand and reach it, that big frame is on the floor, on its side, behind the diaper genie. And don’t even ask me about the bedsheet-for-curtain décor I have going on. It keeps the daylight out, okay??

So now I sit in the puke stained rocking chair and gaze at my nursery in the wake of Hurricane Harry. It’s been disassembled, reassembled, and it's certainly nothing you'd see in ‘Today's Parent’ Magazine.

But it’s where my little man has hung his hat for over a year now. It’s where he first peed on me, it’s where we’ve cried together, eaten together, hid from company together. It’s where he first reached his arms out to me. It’s where he peed on me again.

It’s not the nursery I imagined.... but he’s not the baby I imagined either. They are both so much better.


Guest blog post by Cheryl Trachimowich

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

New Positive Parenting Webinar - Is Time Out a Waste of Your Time?

momstown is excited to partner with Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions to offer a free live training webinar to our members!

If Time Out is the staple of the discipline diet in your house, sign up for this webinar today! Amy McCready, will teach you why you need to ditch the strategies that are fundamentally flawed and what you can do instead. You’ll walk away with concrete tools you can use immediately to get your kids to cooperate without the slightest hint of whining, fussing or complaining.

Who Should Attend: Frustrated parents of kids ages 2 – 15
What You’ll Learn: Our strategy-packed, interactive, LIVE online webinar designed to teach you…

  • What kids are really telling us when they don’t listen, talk back or flat out ignore us!
  • Why the time is up for “Time Out” and “Counting 1-2-3”
  • Tool Box Solutions – the strategy parents consistently hail as “magical” in it’s effectiveness
  • The answers to your pressing questions (you’ll submit your questions via the text chat and I’ll make them part of the session.)
No need for a webcam. All you need is a computer with speakers and you can kick back and learn from the comfort of home.

Two sessions are available:
Thursday October 20th at 12pm MST
Monday October 24th at 7pm MST

(You must RVSP in advance to attend as there is limited 'seating')

Not a momstown member? Think could benefit from this training?
Please Join In Too! We wouldn't want you to miss out!
About Amy McCready

Parenting expert Amy McCready is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, which has empowered thousands of parents worldwide to correct their kids’ misbehavior without nagging, reminding or yelling. Amy is a frequent guest on the TODAY show and has also appeared on Rachael Ray, CNN, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, and elsewhere. A regular contributor to the TODAY Mom’s blog, Amy lives in Raleigh, North Carolina, with her husband and two sons.
 

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Planning is Key - Quick Tips for New Mompreneurs




At momstown Edmonton South's first Mompreneur Networking night, Communications Specialist Natasha McKenzie shared with us some critical tips on having a plan - and not just a business plan.  She taught us how to make both Communications Plans and Marketing Plans to ensure that we've considered everything about the industry we're in before taking the plunge! As suggested in the recent, and very polarizing, blog post by momstown.ca about the rise of the Disposable Mompreneur, having a good plan that considers every aspect of your business is so crucial to your success as a Mompreneur.  It takes a look at the business from different angles and can help you figure out if your business is viable and if you have the time and resources to make it successful.

So what is a Communications Plan and a Marketing Plan (and aren't they the same thing?) Natasha explained that the Marketing Plan is a precursor to the Communications plan.  The Marketing Plan tells us the Who, What, Where, When, while the Communications Plan is the How & Why.

Marketing Plan - Top 5 Tips

1. Find out who your customer is - include age, sex, marital status, location, family size, income level etc.  You need to know who you're selling to.
2. Once you find out who you're selling to find out how they make their purchasing decisions - what are they willing to pay for your product, where do they shop, what motivates their purchases and what problem does your product or service solve for them?
3. Know Your Competitors a.k.a SWOT Analysis - Identify your Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats.
4. Marketing Activities - How will my message reach potential customers? Print ads, facebook, twitter, sponsoring, promotions. Figure out what the best fit is for your business in your industry.
5. Project where you will be in 1, 3, 5 and 10 years - What are your long term goals?

Don't forget to set a date to review your plan!

Communications Plan - Top 5 Tips

1. Overall Outcomes/Objectives - Similar to your mission statement from your business plan, this should be 2 or 3 sentences about how your product or service will assist your target audience.
2. Critical Path - Timeline for how you'll use the tools and tactics to achieve your goals and relay your messages, charts are a fantastic way to budget your time and stay organized  (ie. How often and  how long will it take you update facebook, your website or engage on twitter daily?)
3. Key Messages - What is the message you are trying to relay about your business, these should be one liners to describe what you're business is about, your 'elevator speech'.
4. Evaluation - This is necessary to measure your success.  Example - how many hits generated, number of new clients or number or mentions/media clippings.
5. Public Relations - How will you interact with the public? Advertising, Socia Media and Media Kits - Which will you use in what way? Remember that social media is not free, you are always investing time and energy.

Thanks again to momstown mama and Communications Specialist Natasha McKenzie for teaching us so much!

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Fun with the Fisher Price "Loving Family" Grand Dollhouse

When we received the Fisher Price "Loving Family" Grand Dollhouse I had thought to myself; "Grand indeed!"  The mere size of the box was surprising until we opened it and to our surprise there it was, assembled; every parents dream!  To completely assemble the dollhouse it took about 5 minutes in total and that was mainly because we couldn't decide which room from the many available to put the family! 

Once it was complete and ready so was our daughter.  She couldn't wait to get in there and explore the house herself.  She loves that there are two babies to play with and that have their very own chairs to sit in with the mommy and dada.  I found the layout was very well done because our daughter isn't even quite two yet and it can keep her busy for quite a while with all the different rooms available and also something as simple as playing on the stairs, go figure.


The "Loving Family" Grand Dollhouse doesn't only keep our daughter busy it also keeps my nephew (3) busy as well.  I found it quite interesting that he naturally picked up the male figurine and started to play with him.  After being able to watch both of these children play together with this one item I knew this was definitely something that would stay grand in our loving family for quite some time and am very grateful that we were picked for such an opportunity.


Guest Blogger: Angelina Cardinal

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Why Doing What You Love Will Repay You In Spades

When I found momstown.ca I thought, "Why would anyone pay to join a momsgroup??".  Then I took advantage of a 2 week free trial and realized the  value a membership contains and haven't looked back since.  After 1 year of attending events and developing some incredible friendships, the opportunity came to purchase the South Edmonton chapter.  I originally thought about how much I loved these ladies and worried that we couldn't live up to their expectations.  I also thought about how much work was involved in keeping an entire community of moms busy, happy and most of all connected.  Needless to say taking over the momstown Edmonton South chapter was a huge decision and after thinking about it long and hard Janine and I decided to jump in!


Then came the work.


I once thought that I was a computer whiz, after purchasing the license I found out my knowledge level is sub par at best!  After a month or two of frustration and a lot of hard work, we realized that we missed something.  momstown is about community.  Although things were running smoothly our vision for community had been buried as we learned our new roles. 


Moms need support, recognition and to feel cared for and our vision for momstown was just that.  We began to look at ways to encourage our community to support one another in good times and bad.  We've had incredible response and we've been so unbelievably delighted to see amazing things happen within our community.  Our moms have given so much of themselves to help each other and at times it has literally brought tears to our eyes.  Whether it was a coffee, a hug, or help around the house our community takes care of each other and we couldn't be prouder.


On a business front we've seen that partners are aware of how connected our moms are and they want to be a part of it.  This venture has been scary, frustrating but most of all rewarding.  We all know being an entrepreneur takes a lot of hard work so check out this blog for some fantastic tips on how to keep the love for your business alive.  We can't *imagine not being an integral piece of this flourishing community and we're excited to be part of an amazing team of mom entrepreneurs just like us.  We've learned that our struggles only make us stronger and they don't even compare to how much we've gained intrinsically from this endeavor!


"Never let the odds keep you from doing what you know in your heart you were meant to do."


Kristin and Janine
Your momstown mama's

Monday, September 26, 2011

Back to School PJ Party with Kelloggs!


momstown Edmonton South spent a fantastic morning dressed in our jammies at Gymboree! Our bellies were filled with delicious Kelloggs cereal, fruit and yogurt!  All our moms were amazed as we read the labels on cereal we've all been feeding our kids for years.  We were surprised to learn just how nutritious cereal really is, it was a fantastic learning experience for us all! 
      
 

If you’re interested in comparing
Kelloggs cereals and how your choices contribute to your calorie and nutrient intake for the day I encourage you to check out this neat tool from Kelloggs that builds a breakfast for you and then compares the breakdown of each food.

A HUGE Thank you goes out to Kelloggs who treated us to a wonderful breakfast as well as Gymboree who hosted the awesome event and kept the kids entertained!


Here is a video recap of all the fun we had! 


We're having fun with Kelloggs all across Canada!
Check out the PJ Party's in Winnipeg and Hamilton!!

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

What my childless friends don't know...

I've always wanted to be a mom, I've never had to decide whether motherhood was for me.  I have always found kids to be fascinating, how they think, play and love has always astounded me.  When we made the decision to have children, I knew it wouldn't be easy but as the old Beatles song goes I thought "All you need is love".

All that said motherhood took me by surprise.

I knew I'd be up in the middle of the night, I knew breastfeeding would hurt, and I knew that toddlers were a handful.  But I struggle daily with my children.  My 3 year old tests my patience on a daily basis and my sons sleep habits are less than stellar.  My life is busy, a little bit crazy and very loud.  I'm tired and I don't get much time to myself.

 
My childless friends look at my chaotic life and say, "I am sooo happy I don't have kids, I love my sleep" or
"I don't know how you do it, just watching you makes me tired!"

But they don't know.

 
They don't know what it feels like to be responsible for a small miracle.
They don't know what it's like to hold a screaming baby for an hour, then not want to put  her down when she finally falls asleep.
They don't know that you have literally fall in love with that messy, crying baby.
They don't know what it's like to study every inch of a baby from their tiny toe nails to the wrinkles at the back of their head.
They don't know that hearing the words "I lub you mommy" brings tears to your eyes.
They don't know what its like to see the tiny feet that you created taking their very first steps.
They don't know how it feels to watch your perfect little baby smile in his sleep.
They don't know what it's like to feel those small arms wrap around your leg for a surprise hug.
They don't know just how much you love those tiny humans.
And they don't know that it's worth every second.

 
So because they don't know what they don't know we won't fault them for thinking we're crazy.  But let's keep this a secret so they don't try to steal our precious babies : )

 

 

 

Monday, September 12, 2011

momstown's 4th Birthday Bash!!

momstown's 4th Birthday Bash was HUGE success!
Across Canada there were 19 Birthday Parties, that's  a lot of cake!!
 
Here in Edmonton, we were so happy to see so many happy smiling faces.  We were blessed with amazing weather, incredible kids and tons of fun!  Thank you all so much for coming out and supporting us. 

I hope everyone had as much fun as we did!

Have a question? Want more info?
Contact us at
info.edmonton-south@momstown.ca 
or call 780-918-5639

   To get in on the fun! Register now for your free trial membership!!

Monday, August 29, 2011

Win Family Passes to The Backyardigans!

Contest: Win Family Passes to The Backyardigans 



So excited about The Backyardigans show coming to Norther Jubilee Auditorium on September 25! The Backyardigans Quest for the Extra Ordinary Aliens is the theatrical production by Koba Entertainment that brings to life the fun-loving and adorable characters from the favourite children's TV show. Wouldn't you love to surprise your little one with this special outing?

Well, I have great news! I am going to award one of you Free Tickets to the show!!! Here's how to enter our contest:
All you need to do is visit the momstown Edmonton South facebook page between Monday August 29th-September 19th post a picture/video/or story featuring your kids loving The Backyardigans and why they are the number #1 Fan. We hope you will get very fun and creative in honour of our friends The Backyardigans!
 
Don't forget you will need to come back here and post a comment letting me know you completed step 1 which was uploading your creative submission on Facebook (please leave your Facebook name as well so I can easily find you)!

I will need to see your post on Facebook and see a comment here on the blog in order for your entry to be valid.


At the end of the day on September 2nd I will choose one lucky winner!


Check out www.thebackyardigansontour.com/ for more details on
the Show and make sure you go and like the Koba Entertainment Facebook page and follow them on Twitter as well!
 

Friday, August 26, 2011

An Edmonton womans's Skin Cancer Story

Guest blog post from a 27 year old local Edmonton woman. Please heed her warnings and protect yourself and your children from the sun.

Hi, my name is Erin and I have a story to tell you. I am a fair skinned person with lots of moles. When I was 18 I thought my pale skin was unattractive and that I needed a tan. People would say I was pasty and needed a “healthy” glow. I believed these stupid people. So I started tanning in tanning beds, and lying out in the sun without protection trying to get some color, which I could never get much… but I kept trying. I thought if I went more and used tanning accelerators that maybe I’d get darker. I felt myself becoming addicted to the good feeling you get after using a tanning bed. I would crave the warmth and light. So, for three years, I would go in spurts, try for months to tan, then stop, then months later start again… until I finally stopped because I thought it was a waste of money, and in the back of my mind I wondered if I had done enough damage to my skin that I would pay for it later…. Little did I know what was in store for me.

I had a mole on my leg that was large, and people like my mom and boyfriend all said it looked weird; I thought so too but didn’t think it was a big deal. They urged me to get it taken off. So I did. Eventually.

DECEMBER 15TH, 2010
The dermatologist who took off my mole said they’d call if there were any problems with the mole. First thing I heard that morning ten days before Christmas was my phone ringing. I answer in a haze. It’s the dermatologist. The conversation went like this: Hi Erin, can you come to my office today? No, I can’t, I have to go to work… Ok well grab a pen then.

You have Melanoma. I just wrote it down and kept writing everything he said.

 I was so shocked I didn’t really hear him, just wrote down what he said. I had to go the next day to get a chest x-ray and two ultrasounds to make sure that the melanoma hadn’t spread to my organs. I found out later that day that it hadn’t, and we all breathed a sigh of relief. But my cancer journey wasn’t over yet, in fact, it was just beginning. I was then referred to a melanoma doctor at the U of A. He told me I had a stage one melanoma and that they would remove flesh around where the mole was and then biopsy a lymph node in my upper leg to be sure the cancer hadn’t spread to my lymph nodes.

February 4th I had my surgery. Ten days later I go in to my surgeons. They found cancer in the lymph node they removed. They said I now have stage 3 Cancer. My chances just went down to about 65%. I crumbled and cried for the first time in fear of my disease. I wondered if I was going to make it to my 28th birthday. I wondered if I’d survive long enough to have a family one day. I cried, I was scared, I sat on regrets. I was then told that I would have to have all the lymph nodes around the one that was malignant removed. I was told it would be a big undertaking.

Two weeks later I had the surgery, what they call “Radical groin lymph node dissection.” Sounds scary and it is. I had two tubes coming out of me when I woke up, one on my hip and one in my lower abdomen, and a serious amount of pain in my hip and upper leg. I lay in a hospital bed for four days, unable to go to the bathroom without the help of a nurse and high on morphine to relieve the pain, I cried at night about my uncertain future.

After my recovery from my surgery, I was then referred to an oncologist, a cancer doctor at the Cross Cancer institute. I grew up in the neighborhood where this scary place is and I always thought that other people go there, not me or my family. No, I wouldn’t know anyone who’d have to go there for treatment, not me. He said I should do a year of Interferon, a drug that “interferes” with cancer cells to slow down or kill them. I was told I’d have to go in five days a week for four weeks for IV Treatments and then I would go on to the “maintenance” part of my treatment, 3 shots a week from home with a “pen” for 48 weeks.

The first week of interferon I walk into the cross and I am told to go to the main Chemo room. It wasn’t until then that I realized I was a Cancer patient. I was here to have Chemotherapy. What everyone fears. I was nervous but dove head first into my treatments. I wrote a little calendar to mark off the days and called it “Chemo countdown.” I lost 15 pounds in two weeks. I couldn’t eat. I had a horrible taste in my mouth for the whole four weeks. I had to give up drinking, and caffeine, and I fought the urge to puke 24 hours a day. I felt weak all over. In my whole body, from head to toe I was exhausted. I slept everyday after my treatments, and couldn’t keep my eyes open after 9:00 pm, and would do it all the next day, endless day in day out of the same, feeling sick physically, mentally, and emotionally. Waking up and crying. Just crying.

But then deciding to soldier on and get this sh*t over with. Once I thought I wanted to just quit. I thought I couldn’t do it. Then after thinking about it all weekend I thought, no, I will finish this off. And I did. I am now in month 3 of my at home treatments. I feel a bit better but some days are still hard, I have mornings where I have no appetite and days, sometimes weeks where I am completely exhausted, where I can hardly stand up I am so weak and tired, and it is a far cry from the girl I used to be. I went back to work part time, and even that is too much sometimes.

I used to have a busy life and at the age of 27 I’ve had to slow down more than I’d think I’d have to till my 70’s. I never imagined I’d spend a year in my 20’s fighting a disease like melanoma, and now looking back there was a lot I could have done to prevent it. Melanoma is a disease you can see on your skin. Most cancer quietly grows inside of you and doesn’t give you any warning signs until it is too late. Melanoma can be caught early, but if it isn’t caught until it spreads to your organs your chances are less than 10% that you’ll survive 5 years.

Please think about me next time you hop in a tanning bed. I was just like you.

Friday, August 19, 2011

Letter from my daughter..

Reading this blog post on the The Leaky Boob inspired me to think about my own struggle with breastfeeding through my daughters eyes.

Dear mommy,

I remember just after I was born, you were so excited to feed, hold and kiss me. I  heard you tell my auntie how this time things would be different.  I didn't know what happened 'last time' but I could tell you loved me so much, I trusted you to take care of me.  You let me nurse for hours and hours, usually straight through the night.  That sweet gentle lady came over and hung me in that blanket and you started to cry.  She told you it was okay, I hadn't lost too much weight yet; we'd see how I was doing in the next few days. I would nurse and nurse, I just loved being so close to you all the time.  I wish you wouldn't cry so much mommy.  I really liked visiting the nurses in the office with the brights lights, but you were always so sad when we left, it made me sad too.  I felt you not wanting to hold me unless I was eating. I saw you not being able to look at my legs and arms, getting so skinny.  Did you know that I was so hungry mommy?  That new milk tasted funny and the bottle was cold to suck on, but it filled my tummy.  Everyone told you that I was getting so big, I liked to see you smile.  I don't know why you called my bottles baby poison, but auntie didn't think it was funny.  I hear you telling my friends mommies that you didn't make enough milk.  I hear that you're still sad that you couldn't feed me yourself.  I hope you know that I'm okay, I know you tried. I forgive you mommy.


Can you forgive yourself?

Love,
Madilyn


Tuesday, August 9, 2011

A Whole Lot of Fun with the Fisher Price Stride-to-Ride Dino!

I was lucky enough to be selected to test and review the Fisher Price Stride-to-Ride Dino! As soon as this awesome toy graced our doorstep my children fell in love! I saw the small box and thought there's got to be 1000 tiny peices in there, we're waiting for daddy to get home to put it together!  But after much begging from my 4 year old I finally opened it and to my surpise it was the easiest toy I've ever assembled! In literally minutes and both my kids (1 and 4 year old) we're cruising around the kitchen on this adorable little Dino!
 It's bright, colourful and the sound effects are cute too! Not overly loud like some toys on the market.  What I LOVED about the Stride-to-Ride Dino was how easily it adapted from ride on to push toy for smaller babies!  My adorable neice who's not walking yet loved pushing this toy from one end of my house to the other.  My daughter had a truck type of ride on toy when she was 1 and this is so much better, I love the design of the dinosaur and both my kids can't get enough of it.  My 1 year old, who's a bit of daredevil has had so much fun playing with this.  It is a great toy to give as a gift or for your own kids, we'll be using it for years to come!

Enter to WIN your very own Fisher Price Ride-to-Stride Dino from www.momstown.ca

Saturday, July 30, 2011

momstown.ca celebrates 4 incredible years of building community!

When I joined momstown I thought it would just give me something to do.  I liked the idea of a message board with local moms and having a calendar of events catered specifically to my neighbourhood.  I found so much more than I expected with momstown and for the whole month of August we're celebrating momstown.ca's 4th year of building community among moms all across Canada!!

Be sure to join in on the momstown.ca facebook fan party on August 18th! So much fun and of course amazing prizes!

Join us on August 21st at Jackie Parker Recreation Area from 10am-2pm for tons of fun for the kids and as always local moms looking to connect with each other!
You'll also have a chance to win some great prizes!!
  • Presidents Choice Gift Card
  • Smashbox Cosmetics
  • Littlest Pet Shop
  • Little Tykes Sports Coupe
  • Greenworks Gift Pack
  • Gift Basket from Stella & Dot Stylist - Sabrina Komarniski
  • Scrapbook from Linda's Stampin' up!
  • Clorox Gift Pack
  • Life Choices Food Prize Pack
  • CBC Kids - Super Why Prize!
  • Maple Leaf Foods
  • Epicure Selections Gift Basket!
  • Gift Basket from Cafe O' Play
Thank you to our fabulous sponsors!




Don't live in Edmonton? There are Birthday Parties just like ours happening all over Canada for the whole month of August!

Ontario
  • momstown Barrie - Aug 20
  • momstown Burlington - Aug 14
  • momstown Georgina - Aug 27
  • momstown Guelph: August 16
  • momstown Hamilton: August 13
  • momstown Kitchener-Waterloo: August 21
  • momstown Markham: August 31
  • momstown Milton:  August 5
  • momstown Newmarket-Aurora: August 13
  • momstown Oakville:  August 10
  • momstown Toronto:  August 27
  • momstown Whitby: August 27
Manitoba
  • momstown Winnipeg: August 14
Alberta
  • momstown Central Alberta: August 29

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Maya's Stillbirth Story: A baby is a baby, no matter how small.


I have four children, you’ll only see me with three of them at playdates or shopping at Wal-Mart.  But I have four.  When I explain that I have an angel baby I see people get a little uncomfortable.  I see the sadness in their faces.  I hear their justifications for why it happened. Most of the time they try to change the subject.  I’ve heard so many times that it would have been easier if she had passed away earlier.  That it must have been so much harder carrying her for that long and then losing her.  There is nothing that could make losing a baby easier.  She would have been my baby if I had carried her for 6 days, 6 weeks or 6 months.  As soon as you see those two pink lines you have plans, dreams and a love for that baby that consumes you so completely.  You can imagine their tiny hands wrapping around your finger, you can picture them learning to walk and saying their very first words. 
We found out we were pregnant just a week after returning from our wedding in Jamaica. Excitement, joy, and a whole lot of worry set in. In no time at all, we were 12 weeks along (that magic number) and started spreading our news to family, work, and every social media outlet that would listen.  Then I saw red. You know that feeling your whole pregnancy. You don't want to look down just in case you see that awful colour you’re dreading.  There it was. I thought, well maybe it's implantation bleeding, doing the math it I knew it wasn't, but I just wanted it to be anything other than the only thing my mind could think of - miscarriage.  After describing the symptoms to the triage nurse, she loudly stated  "Oh that doesn't sound good, you're probably having a spontaneous abortion." Nice.  Like my body had some sort of disdain for this baby and called off the whole thing.  Finally they came in with the doppler and there it was! I hear that familiar and incredible sound of tiny horses galloping in my belly!! It's  funny how such a small sound can change your world so much.
They sent me for an ultrasound and found out it's a subchorionic bleed, which is basically an accumulation of blood between layers of the placenta, 20% of women have them but most aren't even detected.  Mine unfortunately was larger than most and required bedrest.  From then on, I was waited on hand and foot.  Sounds like fun right?? Not when you have a 18 month old that so desperately wants you to continue on with your daily activities, but you aren't even able to lift her into her carseat or pick her up for a cuddle.  Without the help of some amazing mamas, those three months would have been unbearable.  They babysat, cooked meals, arranged playdates and always remained positive.  We joked that this little Jamaican baby was trying to teach his mama to relax a little!
After two more months, she was still strong and everything seemed to be improving, I felt all the bed rest and ultrasounds were worth it, I was really going to be able to meet my baby.  24 weeks, I kept repeating to myself.  Babies are viable outside the womb at 24 weeks.  I was almost there. 
Then it happened.  I will never forget the day we found out we had lost her.   All the kicks and movement had tapered off and I had this terrible feeling in the pit of my stomach.  I tried to pretend she was alright and that I was just being paranoid.  We watched the ultrasound monitor, she was so still.  I cried all night wondering what I had done, what I hadn’t done.  I dreaded waking up in the morning knowing I had to deliver a baby that I couldn’t take home. 
When they induced me they thought it might take days to start the labour, I secretly hoped it just wouldn’t start at all.  But the labour began quickly and before I knew it I was having strong contractions.  I wept and prayed for God to give me the strength to do this; my body was doing the opposite of what I really wanted.  I wanted to just keep her in my belly, safe and warm; I wanted to pretend she would come out alive and well.  After only 4 short hours we were holding our sweet baby girl, Maya Grace.
We were surrounded with so much love that words can’t even describe. That tiny hospital room became a place of peace and calm.  We didn't even cry holding her, how could we cry holding someone so beautiful? 
Days turned into months and everyday a little bit of strength returned.  I grew with this experience more than words can ever explain.  I've become more loving, more caring and I cherish every second I have with my kids.  I revel in the small things; like the look on my daughters face when she's done something wrong, or that tiny trickle of drool my son leaves on my arm when he's sleeping.  I tell them I love them more than they probably need to hear. I hug them (a lot). Every chance I get to be their mommy - I take it.
I feel lucky. I feel blessed to have had the chance to hold my sweet angel.  To see her hands, toes, and kiss her lips. I know most people think it would be harder to have a stillbirth and harder still to have a baby who passed away after birth. But I would give anything for even an hour of my baby's life, to see her sweet smile or open her eyes.
I want my experience to shed some light on stillbirth, miscarriage and early infant death.  We've all been touched by at least one of these, but most likely all three.  You’ve probably had a friend of a friend deliver a stillborn, or your aunt had a baby pass away from SIDS.  I'm sure you know at least a handful of women that have had miscarriages, if you haven't had one yourself.
These babies though small, some just a few weeks along, are our children.  They stay with us forever whether you have subsequent children or not. I think of my daughter and this experience often.  I’ve learned that most people have no idea what to say or what not to say to a woman who’s just lost a baby.  I have some advice for helping someone heal from such an incredible loss.
Don't expect her to be "normal".  She will never be the same. Forget who she was and just follow her as she becomes the mother of an angel baby.
Don't avoid talking about her loss.  She is always thinking about her baby so don't be afraid you'll upset her.  
Let her cry. She needs to cry.
Don't tell her she can have more.  Compare it to if someone lost their sister, would you say "Well at least you have another sibling?"
Say her baby's name.  She needs other people to acknowledge her child and hear her  baby's name from someone else's lips
She doesn’t need to hear “It was for the best”.  It just doesn’t matter to her. She wants to be holding a baby, not a box of tissues.
What I did need was support.  I needed someone to listen to me if I needed to talk.  I needed people to just be there. I needed hugs.  I needed to cry and I needed to laugh. 
I know Maya will always be with me.  I feel her presence as my children giggle with joy blowing bubbles that float gingerly in the air.  As I continue to heal I keep her in my heart even if I can’t hold her in my arms.
                              

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